Yes I Read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus definately showed me relationships in a different light. Unfortunately not soon enough to save my first marraige though!
Understanding how, when in tough times, men retreat into their 'cave' and women wanted to talk the hind leg off it, was just so typical of so many issues in my own and friends relationships.
Now I understand that when he seems detached and uncommunicative, that's his way of dealing with things. Giving him space to work things through, means that he will come back to me (eventually!). When in the past I would nag to get him to tell me what was wrong, now I understand that a man needs his thinking space. It's the shed at the bottom of the garden syndrome!
On the other hand, my need to gossip and talk about everything now makes sense, and to this end I value my female friends all the more, and indulge in a natter over a coffee or an evening with friends and a bottle of wine.
Knowing this has definately improved the quality of my codependent relationship. Now I just have to persuade him to read it!