How to Seduce a Woman

Learning how to seduce a woman will take you a lifetime. Sorry if that is a disappointment, but I speak from bitter (and sweet) experience. All women are different, and treating them all the same simply doesn’t work.

The pick up artist is a modern cliche. Whole websites are dedicated to perfecting the art of seducing women and making them have sex with you. I wonder how many of these websites are written by genuine men who actually like women instead of treating them like pieces of meat to be picked up, abused and discarded. Learning how to seduce a woman is much more complicated than that. Here are some tips I have picked up in a lifetime of 'getting the girl', and probably more often than not, NOT ‘getting the girl’.

Firstly, BE YOURSELF. There is no point learning this or that technique and trying to put on an act. Don’t try to be somebody you are not. The ladies are not stupid. They know when they are being hit on. They don’t like that, they will run a mile. Don't try to use other people's methods and personalities. Be yourself, with all that means, and you have much more chance of learning how to seduce a woman.

Next, be the best you that you can be. Develop confidence and self-esteem. You can't expect somebody to like you if you don't like yourself. Nobody will love you until you love yourself. Learn to relax, be comfortable to be around, respect yourself.

You have probably heard of the Law of Attraction. If you want to meet a nice lady who is confident and attractive, then you have to be those things yourself. You will attract people who are like yourself, so it makes sense for you to be something special. That way you meet ladies who are special as well. A lady can tell if you are proud to be in her company and comfortable knowing her.

Next, set a goal to meet one new lady every day. Get used to talking to women. Be a class act, be friendly, be charming and witty, make her laugh. Get into the habit of talking to a girl every day. There are two main reasons for this. Firstly, you need to be comfortable talking to ladies. Not so you can have sex with them, but so you can learn to be relaxed in their company. You probably won't feel like approaching ladies in this way at first. Like me, you may well want the ground to open up and swallow you whole, but guess what? The more you do it, the better you get. Just submit to the process, without ever thinking that this is THE one girl who is perfect and you want to spend the rest of your life with her. That just heaps pressure upon pressure. You will never learn how to seduce a woman like that.

Secondly, you can't talk to one new lady every day without having some success. Some won't like you, so what? Some will. They will become friends, have sex with you, or become your girlfriend or your wife. You can't possibly talk to 365 in a year without ending up with a lot of options. The problem most men have in the dating game is that they only get the courage to talk to someone they find very attractive. Expectations rise, that increases pressure, and the result is anxiety and desperation.

Ladies can smell desperation at a hundred paces. You have to create a situation where you have enough ladies interested in you that it doesn't matter what this one thinks about you or that one. You simply know that you are in control of the situation. That is when the girls start chasing YOU, and you respond truthfully that of course you will take their phone number, but it may be some time before you get back to them if at all, because you are very popular.

But be warned: don't ever say you are popular if you aren't. Lies don't work. The girls are used to being the one who plays hard to get, and it is when you turn the tables on them that you learn how to seduce a woman.

What normally happens on a date? The man buys the lady drinks or dinner, the lady takes the drinks and food and smiles secretly at the fact that she has found another mug. So when you go on a date, DON'T buy drinks or dinner. In fact, make it quite plain to her that you expect HER to buy YOU drinks and dinner. She has never heard that before, and she will never hear it again.

Once again, you are making it clear that she has to chase you. There are plenty more fish in the sea and it doesn't really matter what happens tonight because tomorrow you have other options. They may or may not include her. Casually mention at some point in the evening that you are a man of principle and you are very sorry, but you don't sleep with a lady on the first date, and the odds of your having sex that night are greatly increased.

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