Love Yourself

'I tried setting my password to 'penis'. I got an error message saying it wasn't long enough...'

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Before you can expect anybody else to love you or even like you, you have to love yourself. A healthy self-esteem is the basis for all our relationships and all our interactions with all the people we meet and have dealings with. When I was young, I was painfully shy. If somebody talked to me or even looked at me, I was always horribly embarrassed. I didn’t know what to say, I didn’t know what to do. So I didn’t say anything, I just wanted the ground to swallow me up. I feared people because I knew I couldn’t cope with them. I was probably the most awkward, shy teenager that anybody has ever come across. I had a few acquaintances, but no friends. I was truly a mess.

And then when I was eighteen I discovered alcohol. I was immediately transformed into the life and soul of the party. I was funny, and could make people laugh. When I had a few drinks, I brimmed with self-esteem, but the morning after the self-esteem had vanished and was overtaken by the old feelings of inadequacy, especially when I woke up next to some young lady and could not remember her name or anything else about the night before.

And then somebody introduced me to the concept of self-help. I knew I needed help, and the realisation that I could help myself was one of the highlights of my life. I began reading every positive thinking book I could lay my hands on. I worked hard on me, identifying my problems and working hard to solve them. This wasn’t easy, but it was a simple thing to do. Over a period of years, I became a different person, finally able to love other people because I learnt to love myself.

A very wise friend of mine once said to me: ‘You are in life precisely where you decided to be’. We are all the sum of our thoughts and our actions. Are you in a happy and fulfilling relationship? Are you single and lonely and unhappy? Ask yourself if you are where you WANT to be. If you aren’t, do something about it. Analyse your situation, take steps to change things, and become a better you. Become the best YOU that you can be, and you will end up loving yourself, and everybody around you will love you too.

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As I keep calling myself a Sex God and ‘the greatest lover since Casanova’, I thought you might like to know more about this legend. Please click on the Wikipedia Article on Casanova There is an absolutely wonderful quote in it about Casanova from one of his contemporaries – ‘He would be a good-looking man if he were not ugly.’ Absolutely priceless. And the more culturally inclined among you may be interested to learn that he may have had a hand in writing parts of the libretto for Mozart’s opera ‘Don Giovanni’.

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