Valentine's Day

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In case you haven’t noticed, next Monday, February 14, is Valentine’s Day. For anybody in a relationship, this is the day to celebrate your love and do nice things for each other. Take your love to your favourite restaurant, buy him or her a special gift to show how much you appreciate them, tell them how much you love them.

There are many ways to celebrate on February 14. I am sure I don’t need to give you ideas. By now, with a week to go before the day, you should have a good idea of how you are going to celebrate Valentine's day.

But let me ask you a question. Do you tell the love of your life once a year that you love them? Do you show them how special they are on this one day but this one day only? Shame on you if that is the truth. You should be showing them EVERY day how much you care about them. You should be telling them EVERY day that you love them. ‘How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.’ More important, how OFTEN do you love me? If the answer is not ‘All the time’, you have a problem with your relationship.

Ok, I go on about the battle of the sexes in a humorous vein and hope to make people laugh occasionally, but we must never forget that this business of ‘Love’ is serious. Building and maintaining relationships is not easy. It requires work and it requires our constant attention. If you do not water your love every day it will wither and die just as surely as the rose left neglected in your garden.

And that can be a problem, because life gets in the way. We lead busy lives, we go to work, we have children, we have to make money, we have to be nice to the in-laws, we have to be nice to our daughter’s boyfriends. We frequently live lives of stress or of quiet desperation. In the midst of all this aggro, keeping our love alive is not easy. But it is an important thing to do.

So may I make a suggestion to all you couples out there? Celebrate Valentine’s Day by all means. Have a fantastic time and enjoy yourself. But BEFORE next Monday, please do something to celebrate your love. Buy your partner a card which says ‘It doesn’t need to be Valentine’s Day for me to love you’. Do something special for them every day of the week leading up to the day itself. It doesn’t need to be a big thing or an expensive present. I used to write little messages of one word and leave them around the house for my girlfriend to find. She would have to save half a dozen or so, all with one word on them, before she could put the message together. I would leave one a day for a week, and at the end of the week she would have something special to show her that she meant the world to me.

Try it and see what a difference it makes. Water your love and watch it grow.

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For those of you who are interested in the history of Valentine's Day and all its ramifications, there is an excellent article at Wikipedia

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