Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus’ by Dr John Gray is one of the classic books on relationships between men and women, and it is definitely the secret of my success in the battle of the sexes. I first saw the book about fifteen years ago on holiday, when I took my mother to Malta. Somebody very kindly left a copy in my hotel room, and I got bored after a session with a porn magazine (no Internet in those days) and started reading it.

Now, until then, I thought I was pretty handy with the ladies. Ok, I was single and didn’t have a girlfriend, but I had plenty of notches on my bedpost and was definitely a babe magnet. My seduction technique basically consisted of ‘cocky and funny’. It seemed that if I could make a girl laugh I was well on the way to scoring. But that was before 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus'.

I have to tell you, ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus’ changed my life. It was only after I read 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus' that I became the greatest lover since Casanova.

That evening, I was in the bar with my mother. A very nice lady came up to us and asked if she could join us. We enjoyed her company for a couple of hours, then my mother made her excuses and went to bed, leaving me alone with this very attractive lady who was totally out of my league.

After about half an hour, she said to me, ‘You are not like other men, you are really easy to talk to’. Dr John Gray, I thought, you are a genius. 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus' is wonderful. I had spent about an hour reading his book and now I was listening to a woman in a totally new way, empathising with her, asking how she felt, paying attention to her, listening to her exclusively and totally ignoring everything else going on around me.

Well, to cut a long story short, we ended up in bed together, without me even trying.

Now, I want to emphasise that this was not some tacky technique to get a girl into bed. I really wasn’t thinking about sex at all, because this lady was TOTALLY out of my league, and I was just amazed that she was talking to me at all. I was simply putting into practise something I had read about what women are looking for when they talk to a man. Sex was simply a very nice (and very surprising) bonus.

And that was the beginning of an amazing transformation in my sex life and my relationships with The Enemy in the battle of the sexes. I have been reading Dr John Gray’s books almost continuously now for about fifteen years, trying to never forget that women are different, how they are different to men, and what I have to do to understand them and their needs. And by catering for those needs, I have found that my needs have been met as well. Truly a win-win situation, and the reason why I became the greatest lover since Casanova.

So men, get hold of this book, read it and study it. If you are embarrassed to be seen with it (on no account should you reveal to your wife/partner/girlfriend that you are reading something like this, that will just freak her out), then just hide it inside one of your porn magazines. Put this stuff into practice and you will be amazed at the results. You will get far more sex, and it will improve your relationships in ways you could not believe.

And ladies, you should read it too. Understand your man, and perhaps you will be nicer to him and stop nagging or trying to change him. In fact, once you begin to understand what really makes us men tick, your needs can be met much more easily. You will get the affection and intimacy you need, and all will be for the best in the best of all possible worlds. Well, perhaps not, but it sure will help.

If you are expecting an affiliate link to Amazon or similar, I am sorry to disappoint you. I’m sure you can find your own way there, or ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus’ is available in all good bookshops. I don’t want you to think I am saying all this just to get an affiliate commission. Below are some articles based on what I have learnt from this book. I hope you will enjoy them. Also, I am very interested to hear from anybody who has read the book or from anybody who has read and can recommend a book which has helped them in their own relationships.

So, apart from how to become the greatest lover since Casanova, what have I learnt from 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus'? The most obvious thing to say is that men and women are different. Here are two articles exploring

Gender differences and Differences between Men and Women

It seems that The Enemy's most common complaint about men is that we don't listen. Oh yes we do

Communication problems in relationships can so easily lead to massive rows or even divorce. Fortunately, 'Men are from Mars....' can help us here. This one simple piece of advice will help enormously

Now we have established that Women are from Venus, but do you realise that means they speak a different language

It also means that men and women react differently to stress

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